Comments on: A Baby, A Stranger and Starbucks http://www.honestbaby.com/a-baby-a-stranger-and-starbucks/ Celebrating The Imperfect Journey Of Parenting Sun, 22 Aug 2010 13:22:01 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: <img src='http://www.honestbaby.com/wp-content/plugins/rpx/images/aol.png'/> Rachel http://www.honestbaby.com/a-baby-a-stranger-and-starbucks/comment-page-1/#comment-4515 Rachel Sun, 15 Nov 2009 05:05:30 +0000 http://www.honestbaby.com/?p=19580#comment-4515 Even though this isn't something I can see myself doing (I never did think much of peeing with baby on lap, and it would probably be outside my comfort zone) I don't think its really a horrible/irresponsible thing. In Gavin DeBecker's book Protecting the Gift, he talks about how mothers have a built in capability and instinct to protect their children, and if something "isn't right" we're likely to instinctively know. He advises to teach children that if they are lost in public and need help, to look for another mom. The key is, when you pick the person you want help from, you almost guarantee a friendly person. If you wait for help to be offered, the chances of it being a not so nice person increases (ie, if there happens to be a predator around, chances are thats going to be the person who offers "help" to a lost child, but if a child decides to find someone to ask, they are unlikely to choose the not-nice person) Soo.. point being, if someone approached you in line for the bathroom and said "Id be happy to hold your baby for you while you use the restroom" you'd be crazy to accept! But you looked around and found some people who gave you good vibes, then chances are they give you good vibes for a reason Even though this isn’t something I can see myself doing (I never did think much of peeing with baby on lap, and it would probably be outside my comfort zone) I don’t think its really a horrible/irresponsible thing. In Gavin DeBecker’s book Protecting the Gift, he talks about how mothers have a built in capability and instinct to protect their children, and if something “isn’t right” we’re likely to instinctively know. He advises to teach children that if they are lost in public and need help, to look for another mom. The key is, when you pick the person you want help from, you almost guarantee a friendly person. If you wait for help to be offered, the chances of it being a not so nice person increases (ie, if there happens to be a predator around, chances are thats going to be the person who offers “help” to a lost child, but if a child decides to find someone to ask, they are unlikely to choose the not-nice person)

Soo.. point being, if someone approached you in line for the bathroom and said “Id be happy to hold your baby for you while you use the restroom” you’d be crazy to accept! But you looked around and found some people who gave you good vibes, then chances are they give you good vibes for a reason

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